Carrying it all alone? Read this.

If last week was about imposter syndrome… this week, I want to talk about another pattern I see everywhere in leadership, parenthood, and relationships…carrying it all yourself.

It usually sounds like this:

✨ “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done properly.”
✨ “It’s easier if I just handle it.”
✨ “I don’t want to rock the boat.”

And so we overwork.

We rescue instead of delegate.

We avoid conversations until small issues become big ones.

The cost? Burnout. Overload. And in business, even cases and tribunals that could have been prevented.

Uncomfortable truth: it’s not about doing more. It’s about equipping others so you can lead (and live) at the level you were meant for.

Try this instead — 4 steps to stop carrying it all alone – in leadership, in relationships – and at home:

1️⃣ Spot the pattern. This week, notice where you step in ✨. Where are you rescuing? Where are you picking up what’s not yours?

2️⃣ Ask yourself: what’s the real cost? Not just your energy – but team growth, trust, relationships. Write it down to make it real.

3️⃣ Experiment with letting go. Choose one thing you usually carry and hand it back – at home or at work. Delegate, share, ditch the idea altogether, or simply pause before jumping in.

4️⃣ Shift the story. Instead of “It’s easier if I do it,” try: “It’s more powerful if I equip them to do it.” That one reframe can change everything.

You’ll be amazed at what happens when you stop carrying it all yourself – space opens up for you to lead, to rest, and to grow.

I’d love to hear if you try one of these this week – hit reply and let me know what you notice.

Retreat news

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